There are many misconceptions and confusion about what BDSM is. There are also many who would love to know more, and incorporate different aspects of it into their love life. I’ll go over some of the basics of BDSM here, and you can consult later articles for specific questions or practices that you would like to know more about. So to start off, what does it stand for?
BDSM is a number of acronyms, and varies depending on the subset of practices you would like to explore. It can stand for bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, sadomasochism, or slave and master. Pretty good range of definitions for four letters, huh?
So what ties all these different practices together? They all cover a type of erotic power play, whether the act itself seems erotic or not. BDSM is much more meaningful than one would think at first, and requires a great amount of effort to understand.
The biggest thing to remember, and a motto of many BDSM organizations - keep it safe, sane, and consensual. Nothing in a BDSM relationship is forced, and takes place between consenting adults.
The lines between different types of BDSM becomes very blurred, and it can vary greatly in terms of bluntness. While you might see a domme leading her sub around leashed in public, you could have another that leads their sub with only a look.
The other big thing about BDSM relationships is the level of trust that must exist between the couple. One might say there is a greater level of care given in a bdsm based relationship than any ‘vanilla’ relationship. Considering the amount of giving and power the submissive partner gives to the dominant, it is easy to see how this would be so.
Because there are many different subsets of BDSM, with a mixing of many fetishes and other practices, you might wonder what the ‘right’ kind of BDSM is. And the truth is, there is no right kind. Pick and choose and match what you’d like, to what you’d like to try - and always remember to communicate with your partner. So long as you and your partner enjoy what you want to do, that’s all that matters, isn’t it?
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