With BDSM, there is a focus on power play. So what do you do if you get your kicks by being dominant? The first thing you need to understand is just because you are dominant, doesn’t mean that you cannot listen to your sub. In fact, that would make you a horrible Odom, and would curtail your BDSM activities rather fast.
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Being dominant means knowing your sub as well, or better, than you know yourself. You also need to trust your sub - both to allow you the power and dominance, and telling you when they do not want to play anymore, or if they are pushed to their limit. Power and compassion are not disparate, no matter how many movies you might have seen with cold dominatrices.
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There are many misconceptions and confusion about what BDSM is. There are also many who would love to know more, and incorporate different aspects of it into their love life. I’ll go over some of the basics of BDSM here, and you can consult later articles for specific questions or practices that you would like to know more about. So to start off, what does it stand for?
BDSM is a number of acronyms, and varies depending on the subset of practices you would like to explore. It can stand for bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, sadomasochism, or slave and master. Pretty good range of definitions for four letters, huh?
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This exquisite form of bondage, Nawa Shibari, came from the most practical of beginnings, that of confining prisoners, and extracting information from them. During the Edo period it came, and it was not until recently (1940s) that its use as an incredible erotic art form was realized. The knots are a sight to behold, even beyond the sensual thrill that is felt from being bound so.
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While at first it may appear to be a daunting task, the main focus upon the more complicated of knots is that of layering. A few basic knots are all that are required for trying the practice yourself, the square knot and the overhand knot. The practice itself is said to have hundreds of knots, each with their own symbolism. Time and patience is needed for the labor of winding the rope and knotting it, both keeping it tight enough and making the entire tie a thing of beauty.
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