Your loved one is on the other end of the globe. Or on the other end of the street. No worries. You can put the kink into any long distance relationship by using your free Skype account.

Ultimate Save Cybersex

One thing that makes cybersex extremely intimate is both the time commitment and the amount of thought that goes into it. It is much harder to concentrate on the moment and type out the delicious things that you want to do to your partner than to just say it. One personal pet peeve of mine - don’t use acronyms. It’s not going to kill you to spell out words, and it makes you seem that much more passionate and caring about your lover. It’s just a sign of respect for them.

Photography by SuicideGirls.

Most cybersex goes back and forth, with the action being relying in a turn based rhythm (eg first he types, then she, then he, then she, etc etc). One major reason cybersex is such a turn on is that it seems like you’re writing an erotic story just for your lover. That makes it incredibly intimate, as you can do the little things that drives them wild.

Another thing that’s fun with cybersex is that you can act out fantasies that you might have been too timid to share before. Working out that bondage fantasy that you’d love your partner to take part in works a lot better if you let them know just how bad you want it, through cybersex.

You’ll want to visualize as much as possible, to get your partner and the place in your head. Describe what you are doing in detail - it’s far better to get too detailed than less, since you’ll make them feel every last kiss and caress. Also, on the whole you have greater staying power in cybersex, since you can control when you go. This can result in hours upon hours of pleasure and fun.

One problem that might, um, arise during cybering is typing with one hand. It’s hard to concentrate on yourself, on what you want to type next, and what your partner is doing all at the same time. It might take awhile to get into a setup that seems comfortable to you, but it’s worth it.

Keep a natural pace and rhythm to it, and make sure that your partner is comfortable with it. Cybersex isn’t always the most comfortable thing for someone to do, and there ’s some heavy stigma against it, even if it is with your lover. Just relax, and if your partner is nervous or anxious about it, either wait for a time in which they are more comfortable, or just let them know you’d like to talk about what you’d like to do to them when you see each other again.

Nuff said, the tips!

Tip 1: Hook Up Your Webcam

Now this is a gift from God for long distance relationships. It is absolutely sinful the amount of fun you can have with a web cam and your lover! Make sure there is sufficient lightning in the room you have the cam in to capture every last detail of you. You can, of course, mount your web cam on top of your monitor for normal conversation.

Make sure you’re going to be comfortable (I could never understand the fascination of pornos for putting their stars on the most painful looking stuff ever) and that everything you need is in easy reach. Lube, toys, ice, whip, you name it, get it close to you, because you aren’t going to be able to move the camera with you if you need to get up. The next thing you’ll need to do is position the web cam. It may or may not come with a tripod, if not you might need to get creative on the positioning.

A few things I’ve used to aid my angles have included books, a printer, boxes, my keyboard, and candles. Make sure you can see the computer screen from where you are laying (or straddling, or bending, or…you get the idea). Not only will this ensure you have a good angle, you can also get off to watching yourself get off.

Once you are all set up, it’s up to you what you want to do. Don’t be nervous - you’re doing this for your lover, who has either been with you forever, or will be with you forever. Revel in your body, in the light caresses and touches you can give yourself for your lover.

Try to hit one or two things that really drive them wild and just space it out. If they can’t contain themselves as you slowly tease yourself, do that for awhile before switching to something different that drives them crazy.

Whether you just make a video of you masturbating, or go all out and do some wild scenes, you will have a video that is not only good for your lover, but for you also. After all, how many times have you watched yourself pleasuring yourself? (those with mirrors on their ceilings need not reply!)

Tip 2: Kinky Phone Sex

Along with visual cybersex, phone sex is a great way to get that cherished intimacy that you need to cultivate during a long distance relationship. Since kinky phone sex is verbal, as opposed to textual cybersex, make sure you are up for describing what you are doing in vivid detail. Phone sex can either go back and forth, with each person describing what they are doing in turn, or have one person that is calling all the shots at a time. Again, you will want to focus on description - make them see you in their head, make them mad with desire from your words.

Kinky phone sex captures the heat and passion of your voice, and you can also have both hands free so it is easier to concentrate on the task at hand. Again, this is an activity that your partner may be anxious over, so try to relax them - you shouldn’t have much of a problem doing this since you are on the phone.

Phone sex tends to go on for less time than cybersex - simply because you have easy access to the goods, as it were. Hearing your partner moan, whimper, groan, and even scream is often so much more of a turn on than mere words, it’s plain kinky - the effect you have on them can be simply stunning.

One thing to keep in mind is that you can use phone sex to voice naughty desires and scenarios. If your partner seems uncomfortable and anxious, try to be extra sweet and romantic with her. Communicate about everything! It might seem weird to talk about what you want to do, and what their boundaries are, but without the body language, you need to discuss things.

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