Before you can start in on the main course, you need your appetizer - foreplay. Your lover might not even be in the mood off the start, and you need a few sure fire methods to get her fired up.

1. Start off Slow - Foreplay isn’t a race to see just how fast she’ll let you have sex with her. Take it nice and slow, gentle touching and kissing are great to slowly get her into the mood.

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2. Hold off on going south - This is also not a race to see how fast you can get your mouth down there either. There are numerous areas on a woman’s body that are extremely sensitive to stimulation, and will help with overall arousal.

3. Moving to Massage - A slow, luxurious full body massage can simultaneous relax your partner and get them aroused. This combination can lead to great sex, as well as a great mood during and after intercourse.

4. Talk the talk - Many women love being paid attention to. While you are massaging her, tell her exactly what you want to do to her, where, and just how long and hard you’ll be doing it. Make it as detailed as possible, and see how fast that gets her worked up.

5. Oral Sex - This is often a large component to foreplay, and the methods of which will be discussed in a future lesson. Again, remember that your goal here is to work your partner up to full arousal. While it is certainly nice if you can get her to orgasm here, that is not the main goal in most cases.

These are just a few of the many things you can do to get her all worked up. Adjusting your foreplay to her specific needs and fantasies works very well, and you should strive to have the best communication possible with your lover.

You don’t even have to begin foreplay when she is around either. Start the mood early while she is at work, and you won’t have to worry about dealing with work related stress when your lover gets home.

Send flowers or candy to her workplace, perhaps with a rather risque picture included (if you can manage it). A note detailing some of the things that you would like to do to your lover can build up the heat as well.

If she has access to an instant messenger or email during the work day, have some fun with it. You might want to be careful, however, depending on whether it is a work email address or not.

Just have fun with your foreplay, relax, and see just how worked up you can get your lover before she screams enough already and jumps you! You’d be pleasantly surprised how much great foreplay adds to lovemaking.

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